Our family has decided to move forward with Andriy and trust God will fill our fund with the $6422 we will be short. Believe me when I tell you this does not mean we do not want Alexander or that Andriy is a better fit--I actually find that abrasive. We never, not once, intended to bring home anyone but Alexander; to chose to move forward at this time is not one to be taken lightly or hastily.
For us, the time has come, to move forward and release our dream of a child that was never available and should have never been listed on RR to begin with. Our hearts are bruised, battered and beaten. We have been through the wringer. We have decided to trust God has the ultimate plan and no one else does. I am sorry we ever agreed to involve Sasha, a.k.a. Alexander's, parents in this all. It was incredibly selfish and there is nothing we can do to change that now.
Our dossier is in country, it is not as if this has not been happening for months on end. If Sasha comes available for adoption--by whatever means that happens, I pray RR lets his fund stay with him even though he is over the age by RR standards for that to be the case. Maybe, the fund is exactly what another family needs to bring him home. And, if the fund does not stay with him since he is over the age of 6 that money will go to help other older children; I can take comfort in that too.
We will trust God knows exactly what He is doing and follow...simply follow. We have asked our SS helper to please have the team submit our CSP's for Andriy in 41. We appreciate the graciousness RR is providing in allowing our FSP to move right now at this moment. We are very thankful that much at least.
This was our decision alone, made after many tears, prayers and consideration.
Fundraising will begin shortly.
"I will go before you and will level the mountains; I will break down gates of bronze and cut through bars of iron. I will give you hidden treasures, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name." Isaiah 45:2-3 (NIV)
9 comments:
I know that you did not make this decision quickly or lightly. Please know that I will do what I can for you and your family in helping bring your son home.
Ahhh, Christie. I'm sorry for your loss, but happy that you've found a different path now and excited for you, your family, and the gorgeous Andriy. Following your story and thinking of you, girl.
It's a heart wrenching choice and I'm sure the pain is great. Praying that God eventually lets you see, even a little bit, what He was thinking. I know another family, locally, that went through something very similar several years ago. Not a day goes by that she doesn't pray for her "first" daughter. You can read her story on her blog: www.cockrumfamily.blogspot.com
Prayers and higs for you and your famioy.
Praying!! Hugs
I was waiting to see...
praying for peace for you...
sadness mixed with happiness for gorgeous Andriy!!!
and maybe we will indeed see you coming while we are going!!!
Carla
www.bringinghenryhome.blogspot.com
What if Your blessings come through raindrops?
What if Your healing comes through tears?
What if a thousand sleepless nights
Are what it takes to know You’re near?
What if trials of this life
Are Your mercies in disguise?
(Laura Story, Blessings)
Christie- I pray that you are showered with His blessings amidst all the trials you are dealing with right now.
My heart hurts for everyone involved, but keep following His path and mercy WILL follow. Prayers for you all!
Yes, we started our adoption process for a Serbian child who...surprise...was not legally available for adoption. And, I had already MET HER at that point, and the facilitator in country begged us to help find her a family! My husband and I decided to be that family. Oh, oops, her parental rights had not been terminated. We adopted a different child instead, 10 year old Axel. (he was George, listed on the older boys with DS page.) We brought him home in December. Of course, the facilitator tried to extort additional money from me while I was there (and even before I traveled!) I brought this to the attention of RR, and also told them that my friends in Belgrade who run a US based 501c3 NGO that works closely with the embassy AND the ministry, warned me that this woman had a history. I told RR all of that. At the completion of our adoption the Embassy had a lot of questions for me. Not the whole "how did your adoption go" but more like, an hour of very specific questions. Then in Feb. I was contacted by the Serbian ministry. Turns out, this facilitator had been under investigation for an entire year prior to our adoption. RR continued to send families to this same facilitator after my adoption, and it took quite a while for them to pull the Serbian kids off their website, because guess what? Most of those who were pictured on RR were not on Serbia's international registry. Two that I know of for sure still had parental rights completely intact. Two families had dossiers submitted to the ministry which is usually very quick to issue a travel date. Yet two months later no dates had been issued. Hmmm It was because they were requesting certain criteria (such as "male under age 3 with apert syndrome") and there was no child fitting that description on the registry. In May I returned to Serbia to give my deposition, and there is more ahead. All because RR didn't bother to have DIRECT contact with the Serbian ministry to verify the children were available. Why? Because they knew it was not legal for those children to be listed as it violates Serbia's data privacy laws for the children. Tonight Andrea Roberts speaks of "integrity" on her facebook wall. Where does integrity come in when you're sending families to work with someone who is under investigation for violating the adoption laws in their country?
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